The people of this Western Hemisphere, have been socialized and conditioned, to accept the images of fictional ideology as typical romantic fantasy, thus avoiding the reality of the impact bio of falling in love, to take up an illusion of fairy tale culture. Most people coming together have never dated someone like the other person they desire, therefore they need to mature into developing an affection toward the other, that will lead them deeper into themselves and into each other. I recommend that if you haven't read my series entitled, "The Matrix Loop of Love", you read it first before digesting this, as well as my note entitled "Impact Bio Effect", which you can find the links listed below.
http://macquirelatory.com/the%20matrix%20loop%20of%20love.htm
http://macquirelatory.com/the%20matrix%20loop%20of%20love%202.htm
http://macquirelatory.com/the%20matrix%20loop%20of%20love%203.htm
http://macquirelatory.com/Impact%20Bio%20Effect.htm
Upon reading those notes, do you come to understand that most people come into relationships, with an image that they believe, is love, not based upon the qualities in the person they desire presently, but rather based on their previous partners. Which in knowing this, many people tend to not be willing to risk showing more of themselves, for fear of being disliked and looked upon as nasty or a whore, and undesirable. So they end up suppressing who they are, to become defined within a false identity of self, which they establish just to appear decent and wholesome. Formatting such an image, presents many problems, cause you cannot love straight when your wearing one hat to cover two faces. Again I suggest reading the notes at the links above to bring you up to par with this one, cause I shall keep it brief as possible, cause this is rather a topic that should be discussed over the phone, and not online via a social networking site.
So understand that this Matrix Loop of Love and its Controllers, have created ways of dispersing your visualization of love, in order to plant seeds of illusion into your mind, that will lead your heart astray and keep it directly under their control. They invent reality shows just for deception, using the association of false irrational beliefs, to induce your ideas to format your behavior, to be in compliance to their visualization of love. Know that these reality shows and horoscopes and other colonial compatibility determiners, are designed purposely to inculcate the idea of limit within your brain. The Controllers want you to feel imprisoned by the limits they have artificially created for your brain, so that you can fail and lose hope, which empowers the Matrix Loop of Love cycle. They want you to follow their patterns, which keeps gives them the ability to induce your behavior, which in return allows them to choose the options you will have to pick from, in order to be happy, and feel loved. So you must never conform yourself to a pattern that they have created to control you.
Such as if I asked you what color is love, you would equate it with the colors pink and red, as you have been taught by the Matrix concept, despite the aura of love actually being white. Since childhood, you have never analyzed love for yourself, but rather told that you were loved, or that someone loved you, and required of you to repeat it back to them, as being confirmation that you love. Your perception of love has been formatted through things drawn out for you, thus making you an outcast to your own creative thought, therefore the image of love you hold, is not based upon an understanding found within yourself for yourself. So you love based on what society and others have conditioned the norm to be, and you set standards for yourself and potential mate, based on a compatibility determiner in regards to something, that cannot be measured, such as love. Which is why you see these relationships in this society, constantly failing, because the people unaware that the Controllers behind the stage, have embedded subliminally in their conscious, their fictional ideology.
Please know that love has no size, therefore it cannot be measured, meaning no one can tell you the size of love, because its not measurable, therefore they cannot say your not capable of loving more than one person, without knowing the measurement of love. Second of all, love has no age, therefore it cannot be counted in years, neither does it have any keys, therefore it cannot be lost, neither does it have any rules, therefore it cannot be judged or penalized, because love has no limits. Which brings me to the question at hand, which was when two people come together that never been someone like each other before, how do they go about having sex? Both partners should focus on feeling confident about having sex together, which their first objective should be to first make each other, acquainted with one another body. Remember pressure must never be an issue, it delays the harmony between the two energy levels, and retards the connection process.
So the two partners should move at a pace more acceptable unto them, and slowly begin to touch and caress each other's body softly, to tune into the frequency of the response that each desire. As they begin to explore each other's body, they both need to inform each other, what is a turn on and what's not a turn on, for this establishes relaxation between the two, so that anxiety doesn't build up. Lightly massage and caress each other, in a warm shower, nice bubble bath with soft music that ease the mind, in bed with colors that reflect calmness and peace, or on the floor on a soft rug and a scented pillow, using a water based lubricant, or body lotion, or soap lather, or your own saliva, or warm oil. Then encourage each other to think about each other's sexual feelings, then listen with your emotions as your fingers gently touch each part each other's body, and concentrate on each other's feelings emotionally and physically, that arouse and stimulate the both of you.
Always listen deeply for the message each other's body sends to one another through your sexual sharing, and you can determine each other's desired rhythm, timing in which each other's muscles contract, leading up right before orgasm. Mentally remain still enough to hear these messages, so that the two of you can practice the discipline of not complaining, of not blaming, of not fearing, or doubting or judging, but rather reach a mutual harmony that establishes unconditional trust and love toward one another. Upon this exploration, you both want to establish assurance in each other of the value you have toward one another, the comfort you have in each other's passion, the beauty you find in each other's desires, the power you find in the openness of each other's mind, which this will awaken the life force of each other's mysterious side. Always seek to give what each believe the other wants, and never frown or show contemplation as if your unsure or in utter disgust, cause doing so causes the other person to shutdown and shy away from expressing themselves.
This opens up the atmosphere to misunderstandings, so to avoid doing so, always smile when listening to your partner, and express tenderness and a hunger in their mysterious side, which creates within the two of you a deep urge to satisfy each other, and feeds the bio-energy in the air, with wholeness and love. Understand that when one discusses the mysterious sides, they are opening themselves completely up to you, thus leaving them vulnerable, which you need to listen with great intent, to discover the courage you can bring in the place of their fears, the actuality you can bring in the place of their hope, the assurance of satisfaction in the place of their expectations, and the joy where other wise griefs would rise to the surface. You always want to give them courage to be able to bring out, that which is buried deep within them, for the both of you to share as an open way communion for pleasure and joy.
The more the two of you can share with each other about yourselves, the more sexual harmony you will enjoy, and the greater will be your abilities to discover and heal all the fears and doubts and misconceptions, that society has placed upon couples today, to keep them from their true capacity for intimacy, pleasure, and ultimate fulfillment. When you open up yourselves to each other with honor in total mutual agreement, you renew each other's spirits, and strengthen the possibilities in which your relationship can blossom. Once you two master this stage of acquaintance, never feel shy to express your love to the world, because there are many people who were just like the two of you, who are in need of possessing this information to be able to further establish themselves in love. So let your love become as a bridge, not only to yourselves and each other, but to your fellow neighbor as you live love and learn, by example. For further information, call me, if you don't have my number, just inbox me, shalom.
Macquirelatory Dey