Wow is my first words to you, I was out this past weekend with my girls, and my best friend Sandra was like girl I got something you need to read, and it was written by a man girl lol. So she begin to tell us some things she learned from your Cautious series, and I became all the more intrigued to read it. Long story short, I read it and the first thing that popped into my mind, was (is he single lol-forgive me for the thoughts that followed). I've heard that you don't do multiple wives, but do consider that I bring much too the table, once you and your wife get to know me. But anyways, if it is not possible to share you, then can you explain to me the nature of the reward system you talked about in regards to the brain, and kind of feel me in on some things surrounding that nature, thanks in advance!!!
Shalom sister, when it comes to the reward system, its existence is due to dopamine, in which dopamine is produced in several areas of the brain. Its a neurohormone who's function is to inhibit the release of prolactin, in which prolactin provides the body with sexual gratification. Prolactin counteracts the effects of dopamine, in which dopamine is what creates sexual arousal. So knowing that, then you can begin to understand that the Reward System, is a collection of brain structures which attempts to regulate and control behavior by inducing pleasurable effects, such as elevation into mental states of positive experience. More specific mental states consist of things you find happiness in, things you find as entertainment, things you find enjoyment in, that bring you to a state of ecstasy, and euphoria. These more specific mental states come with a psychology that must be understood, in order for you to discover the pleasure principle of them. The pleasure principal is known as the feedback mechanism, in which this mechanism is what motivates you to recreate in the future, the situation(s) which you found to be pleasurable unto you.
One of the benefits of this reward system, is that it motivates you to avoid situations that have caused you pain in the past, and motivates you to seek things that are enjoyable and worth your while in seeking. What most young people fail to understand due to their lack of enlightenment, is that human sexual activity has a spiritual, biological, physical, and emotional aspect. The biological aspect refers to the reproductive mechanism as well as the basic biological drive, as where the emotional aspect, is where things get very serious and need to be understood spiritually before enactment into sexual activity takes place. Understand that the emotional aspects, deal with the intense personal bonds and emotions that are generated between a man and a woman when they become sexual partners. When a man and woman lay down with each other without force or blackmail or some kind of stipulation over their head, that binds them as obligated to do so, then mutual consent is established. The engagement into sexual activity shows that they have characterized each other, to the point where affection and trust between them, has been established.
Once that is established, the process of attachment then develops, and engaging in the transferring of bio-energy occurs, and upon intercourse, its equivalent is to a pen signing one's signature. What does that mean? Well it means the insertion of the male is his signature to enter into a covenant or formal agreement with the woman, and her secretion (bodily fluids) upon his member, shows her consent to the covenant or formal agreement, such as promises and vows or oaths that were expressed to one another before the engaging occurred. As I expressed in my Cautious How You Labor Series, sex should not be taken lightly but instead very serious, cause when a man and a woman unite their naked bodies together, and are nearing climax, the emotional intensity of the act, is going to raise their lust and passion levels even higher, this is the dopamine hormone. So upon the man releasing into the woman his sperm, all his emotions and value goes into her, and upon her releasing on him and her muscles contracting squeezing his member, all of her emotions and value he embraces into him.
This formats in their pre-frontal cortex, the subliminal encoded perception, that what just occured was "Love", in which this subliminal encoded perception is then transferred and processed into the emotional part of their brain, known as the limbic system, as an understanding of "Love". This is very dangerous if one laid down with the other just for self gratification, cause this will effect the other person's perception toward the opposite sex, their sleep, their moods, their need for attention, and reprograms the receptors to send signals to the brain that will keep them in a state that causes them to repeat the behavior that lead to the reward system. Thus setting them up, for continued relationship failure and heart break, because their was an error in the encoding of their perception of what occurred, which they understood it as "Love", when it was on their end, but lust and passion on the other end. This produces a conflicting bond between the two, cause one is going to think they just made "Love", while the other is not going to feel the same way, and this is due to not knowing the stimulant phenylethylamine (PEA) is involved.
So they become bonded by rising PEA, oxytocin and dopamine levels, and when they are sexually aroused by close contact, their dopamine level rises further and at the time of orgasm, they have a dopamine brainstorm, which scientists have compared the effects to heroin on the brain. Which if you know anything about heroin, it has very heavy and powerful lifelong effects, which causes one to go crazy, same as with sex which causes one to go crazy over another they slept with. Why, because it becomes addictive when your spirituality is lower than your carnal nature, thus causing you like heroin, to become hooked to it, and on the person who supplied you with your fix, in this case the fix is sex, thus establishing a bond. What is a bond, its an agreement, a mutual understanding between two parties, that is sealed by blood, thus making it a covenant. Now what many people have no idea of, is that when they are having intercourse, blood is still passed through the semen whether the woman is a virgin or not, the two just became one flesh.
Why do you think a man gets jealous when another man tries to talk to his woman or when he thinks another man is looking at his woman or when he is no longer with his woman, and someone else is? Why do you think a woman does the same thing? Why do you think she goes all out to bash the windows of another woman car or to slash her tires or to call leaving threatening messages? Same reason for both, cause they have a bond from the mutual agreement they made when they had sex, in which they gave their value and emotions to that person, so to see them with someone else, they feel as if they have been betrayed, and done wrong. Why, cause they thought they were theirs, cause of the understanding they subconsciously didn't know they established when they laid their naked bodies together and had sex. So when they get with someone else, the person who is taking them to be theirs now, is actually getting less of them, because just like a cell phone, when its been used for a while, the battery is going to begin to wear out, and that's what the heart of a person does who sleeps around and is not married and faithful to one.
They are constantly weakening themselves, and heating up coals for their spot in the lake which burneth with fire, cause spiritually they have no signal. This is why it is key to have a spiritual understanding and a neuro scientific understanding, of the whole nature of sex before you ever engage in sexual activity with someone. Your relationship must be centered around the biblical constitution of the laws and statutes and commandments of the Most High God of Israel, who created sex for the union of marriage only, if not, you will not find righteous stability and comfort in it, and more than likely find yourself in relationship after relationship. Which that takes you through a process called debonding and loss, in which the dynamics of grief, creates turning points in your life, that can transition you on a longer course of psychologically recovering, and in the process leave you vulnerable to separation anxiety. Understand that the anterior cingulate cortex known as the ACC, and the orbitofrontal cortex as well as the overlapping ventromedial prefrontal cortex, are the brain regions that function in the decision making processes.
They are the last things you want to damage, because they help with your ability to make personal decisions, and your ability to adhere to directions. So drinking and smoking and intaking toxic chemicals through food and household cleaners and so forth, can affect your ability to rationalize dramatically, as well as not growing up in a household centered on the laws and statutes and commandments of the Most High. The neurons in your prefrontal cortex not only assist in the formation of a decision, but also signal the degree of certainty or confidence, associated with the decision. Take a woman who has been in domestic violence situations for example, if she suffered physical harm to her head and body to the point of affecting an organ or brain damage, then her anterior cingulate cortex (ACC) is going to be damaged, thus resulting her to having impaired decision making in the long run.
Her oxytocin which is the cuddle hormone, is going to be out of sync like most women and men's are, and the state of embracing where one feels close and affectionate and comforted, is going to revert her in a reinforcement re-enaction of her past experiences that caused her to be in pain. This is going to affect her perception of things, especially the opposite sex, tremendously, so understand yourself and the function of brain mechanisms, and the seriousness of not sleeping with just no anybody, sex is not something to take lightly. Make sure you take every decision before the Most High in prayer for his divine counsel, rather than making them out of uncertainty, which doing so, you make them based on emotions, and a conflict between your neural system, can end up causing you future consequences, that set you up for disadvantages rather than advantages. If you need further (real real negro breaking down, inbox me for my number), otherwise shalom.