Relationship Basic Instructions

What does it mean to relate? To show or establish a logical connection between something. To show or establish is to set up or build, and that's what you do when your desiring to be with someone, you want to lay the groundwork toward being in a relationship with them. So before you can, you must build the groundwork based on logic, such as a system of principles that guide reasoning that is capable of sticking together. For instance, when your putting together a puzzle, you must have a image in order to give you some idea of structure as to how the overall puzzle is to appear. Otherwise, you will end up trying to put pieces in places where they don't belong, and this is what people do when they don't lay the groundwork toward being in a relationship with someone, based on a system of principles that guide reasoning that is capable of sticking together. Cause just like the puzzle, the pieces may appear to stick together for a while, but when you try and pick it up, then it falls apart, same thing with a relationship not logically established.

You can limit the amount of frustration and energy and tears you will have to put into the relationship, if you measure the qualities of the person your attracted to, as well as your own. Doing so will give you a more predictive accuracy of the success the relationship will have, before you even take the step to enter into one. So in order to make that connection, you must fit somewhere in the image or idea structure, which is what you call the person "type", that's the image. So in order to identify their "type", you need to examine the relationships they were in prior to you taking interest in them, because the word "relation", deals with the connection of persons, and establishing the connection they had with others, will help you comprehend their "type". By them being in relationships prior to you taking interest in them, is showing a repeat, in which to repeat, means to "do again" or "get back", which by their doing so, it gives you a detailed pattern of their "type", because their not going to do again or get back with someone they don't like. So the first thing you begin examining for is propinquity, which is the nearness or neighboring elements that brought them together as a whole.

So knowing your not the first relationship for them, then you should examine what elements would play a factor, in their development of sympathy, devotion, dedication, loyalty, trust, comfort, and security for that person, that would cause them to equate those developmental's as reasoning for defining their love for them. This is key, because surely you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that has never dated anyone of your type, cause then they can never love you on the level of who you are. Why, because they never had the experience beyond the developmental's they equated as reasoning for defining their love outside of their traditional "type", so they can only love you for who they have been with, never for who you are. This will lead to conflicts which could have been avoided, which is why so many say, "well I feel as if everything I do for him or her is just not enough", and never realize that everything their doing, is not who they defined what they feel for. Hope this basic outline helps you in your quest, if you need more information just message me with a specific question or more, but if you have my phone number, just call me, shalom.