The person you are currently with is your primary, whom with you have the closet bond, the highest level of intimacy, the greatest attraction, emotional involvement, and level of attention. The two of you share life paths, life goals, personal values, parenting, personal finances, and living arrangements, and your relationship is established upon a lifelong commitment. If one of the primary partners has a child from a previous relationship, that doesn't dwell in the home where their primary relationship is grounded, this forms a third party relationship known as a tertiary. Normally, this results in having a baby mama or baby daddy, that the partner of the primary couple has a child with outside of their primary relationship, have no interest in anymore, but has a connection with them for the sake of their child they have together.

If they still had interest in them, it would be considered a secondary relationship, but since they don't, this third party relationship receives less time and energy from them. In a third party relationship, life goals are not shared, emotional support is absent, personal finances aren't shared, but rather rationalized in regards to the child they have together, whom they have an obligation toward. This third party relationship, also holds a lower priority in comparison to the primary, because the two once before partners, have no connection to each other sexually nor emotionally. Therefore the third party partner, becomes an acceptable outsider to the primary's current established relationship, as they are not a steady part of the primary partner whom they have a child with, life. So with each situation being different, consisting of a more and lessor role of the outsider of the primary relationship, ground rules for open communication has to be established, as well as mutual trust agreement has to be reached, and compromises have to be made through negotiation.

Both partners of the primary relationship, and the partner of the third party relationship who is the outsider, have to each adopt and agree upon specific guidelines and rules that shall be applied to each other. The goal is to establish a union that is healthy, that provides a happy and loving and positive atmosphere of open communication and trust, to be able to properly raise the child one of the primary partners and outsider has together. So all in all, an extended family is what must be established technically, in which lots of communication must take place, and it must be kept open in order to deal with any discrepancies, in case someone steps over a line, there must be a rapport to support repair to the line that may have been damaged. Also this brings about completeness in the union, which helps everyone in involved to respect themselves, and the relationship they have with one another, and each other's role and place in the union. So really they practicing the principles  of a polygamist to an extent and degree unconsciously, but yet they deny not the self indulgent way of society which forbids practicing non-possessiveness, but yet uses its social and religious pressures to influence people to adhere to categories or labels rather than behave in a manner that more closely resembles their nature.

It takes a lot of work and effort and communication on both ends, between the primary couple and the outsider, to first unlearn  a great deal of social conditioning and pre-conceived perceptions, that have been set in place to format a God-ship mentality self image, for the people here in the Western Hemisphere. The Matrix Loop of Love Cycle has engulfed them into practicing possessiveness, rather than non-possessiveness, therefore have our people not been able to see each other as being a friend or brother or sister, even after a breakup. They are held captive by induced social feelings of jealousy, and possessiveness, and rather than the primary and outsider working together as a unit, instead are they forced to rely on family members, payday loan companies, government assistance, because of fear of social pressure they would receive if they functioned as a family unit. Building levels of trust and respect for one another, is not the standard Western culture, division equals capital in local and county and state and government pocket, heartbreak and the ability to not love thy neighbor as thyself, generates revenue for these Colonial Reptilians.

We have relied for too long on those that oppress us to teach us by their methods, and in return have they held social, political, economic, and spiritual control over our people, by way of their 1st to 4th century forgery of religious doctrine. Therefore our psyche has become colonized, and around our mental have they upgraded the physical chains they use upon us to jerk. They have controlled our personal boundaries, relationships and sexuality, all because we control not our own personal growth, therefore they have kept us from being unto each other, as an extended support network. Now is the time, to recreate the social infrastructure so that we are not so easily divided and conquered by Colonial edicts. Always remember, he who controls the pen controls the map that illustrates history and cultural ethics, therefore one could slowly extinct a race of people, if the evolution of marriage is continually defined by people outside of their genetics. Shalom

Macquirelatory Dey - While the world focuses on being imitators, I shall continue giving birth to demonstrators.